How to Choose the Right Therapist: A Compassionate Guide from an Experienced Therapist

As a Clinical Psychologist with over a decade experience of walking alongside people on their therapy journey, I know that choosing the right therapist can feel overwhelming. I want to offer you some gentle guidance to help you find someone who will support and empower you as you navigate the path ahead.

1. Trust Your Gut

One of the most important things to remember is that therapy is about connection. The relationship you build with your therapist is the foundation for all the work you will do together. If you find yourself talking to a therapist and feeling heard, understood, and safe, that’s a good sign you’re in the right place. Trust that feeling.

2. Look for Someone Who Shares Your Values

Therapy isn’t one-size-fits-all. Each therapist brings their own style, background, and philosophy to their practice. Take some time to think about what matters most to you. Do you prefer a warm, nurturing approach or a more direct, challenging style? Are you looking for someone who shares your cultural background or spiritual beliefs? These factors can help you feel seen and supported.

3. Don’t Be Afraid to Ask Questions

When you’re reaching out to potential therapists, remember that this is your time. Ask about their experience, their training, and how they typically work with clients. A good therapist will be happy to answer your questions and help you feel comfortable before you commit to working together.

4. Check Practical Details

Therapy isn’t just about how you feel in session—it’s also about the logistics that make it possible. Consider:

  • Availability: Does the therapist have openings that fit your schedule?
  • Location: Is their office convenient, or are you open to online therapy?
  • Format: Do you prefer in-person sessions, virtual sessions, or a mix?

The right fit means your sessions feel accessible and manageable for your life.

6. Be Patient with Yourself

It’s okay if you don’t find the perfect fit right away. Finding the right therapist can take time, and that’s perfectly normal. If you have a first session with someone and it doesn’t feel quite right, that’s not a reflection on you or on them—it just means you’re still searching for the right person. Keep going until you find someone who feels like a good match.

7. Know That You Deserve Care

Above all else, remember that you deserve to have someone who will listen to you, honour your story, and hold space for your growth. Seeking therapy is an act of courage and self-love. You’re already doing something powerful for yourself by exploring this step.

As you search for a therapist, know that there is someone out there who will be privileged to support you. You are worthy of healing and hope, and I’m cheering you on every step of the way.

Warmly,
Dr Anna Weller, Clinical Psychologist